Wednesday, January 28, 2009

This For A Special Little Girl



I made a little girl a very special valentine's day bracelet with gold teddy bears charms and hearts. Her Mom does not know that I made her one to. This little girl has autism and she does not have that many friends. She invited a few little girls over for her birthday and none of them could come over. Hearing the story broke my heart because my oldest daughter had been going through the same thing expect she does not have autism. She has learning disabilities, her biggest is her speech. The picture in the center is for Ava and the picture on the right is for her mom.

This is what her mom wrote:
As most of you know, I have a beautiful little 6 year old girl named Ava. Ava is on the "high funtioning" end of the autism spectrum, she has aspergers. I feel lucky because she is able to attend public school, and does very well but of course she has an iep and is in special ed. It is a common misconception that autistic children are incapable of displaying emotions and affection. Luckily Ava is very verbal, she does lack a bit in creative speech, mostly echolalia and scripted speech, but she is a very sensitive and loving child. She loves school so much, and is such a sweet girl with a wonderful heart. Even being autistic, I knew it would be hard for her to make friends. Honestly before therapy it would have been impossible. She has learned in the last year how to interact with other children. It has been a huge breakthrough for her and I have never been so proud as when she started talking to other children. She tries so hard to get everybody in her class to be her friend, almost too hard. She had me send invites to three of her classmates and their parents to make a playdate. Well the three kids she thought were her friends apparently are not. They coldly refused her invitation and they want nothing to do with her. She is very confused and I dont know what to tell her. It hurts my heart to know how hard she is working to make friends and she is getting picked on by these kids. She told me all about this last night when we were going to bed and I didnt know what to say. She is so hurt, and I had to try my hardest not to burst into tears when she asked me "Mommy, will you be my friend?" I told her she would be my best friend in the whole wide world forever and ever. Then I went to my bed and cried myself to sleep. Thanks for reading my vent I had to get it out and my husband couldnt possibly understand how much this hurts me to hear.

This was posted at cafe mom. I just to say to all you ladies that responded thanks because this made me think of my daughter also.

2 comments:

  1. aww how sweet you are. That is sad that no one could go to her birthday party. The bracelets are adorable. You do really nice work.

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  2. Beth - our beautiful girls (your daughters, my great nieces) are lucky they have you for their mom and a family that loves them no matter what. I think people are often cruel because they are either afraid or lack understanding. Knowing that does not take away the pain of being rejected, especially for things you can't help, but as your daughters grow, they will come to see it is because of their beautiful hearts that they are loved.

    Your blog is really nice - good work!

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